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TEEN GUIDE TO SEX & RELATIONSHIPS
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Teen Guide to Sex & Relationships |
SUMMARY:
What is Teen Guide to Sex and Relationships?
It's a book that answers the important and confusing questions young people have about their bodies and their hearts. It's an advice book from two authors who care about young people and want to help them work through the tough issues that will be on their minds as they move through an emotionally complex time of their lives. Every question is answered in a conversational way, as if the author were sitting next to you speaking from the heart.
Co-authored by Matt Posner and Jess C Scott.
GENRE: Teen Health/Sexuality | 70,000 words
* Teen Guide is the #1 "Sex Education" Book on Amazon!
(#1 in Kindle eBooks > Issues > Sex Education | 15
June 2013)
* Teen Guide is the #1 Non-Fiction Book on Turning Pages!
(#1 Readers' Choice, Turning Pages | 29
Jan 2013)
(#3 in Best Non-Fiction Books of 2012 | SpaSpa
Awards)
* Teen Guide is available in public libraries nationwide (U.S.)!
(WORLDCAT Database | August
2013)
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Author Bios:
Matt's Bio: Matt is an NYC teacher who's willing to make controversial statements that he thinks are in your best interest. In his own words, Teen Guide "explains what mature, adult sexuality is and provides a useful guide to entering that sexual world at the right time."
Jess's Bio: Jess, a professional non-conformist, has a fresh youthful world view. As an author of relationship-based fiction, Jess is full of ideas on these topics. She's cool, supportive, and writes with both intellect and a lot of emotion.
MATT and JESS answer questions about:
* Love vs. Lust
* Looks vs. Personality
* Whether you should have sex
* How important money is in a relationship
* Pornography (separating reality from fantasy)
. . .and more
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SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION!
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MEDIA MENTIONS
-- Joint
Interview | STOMP (Singapore)
-- Book
Review | SF Bay Area IMC (California)
-- Referenced
in Campus Culture article
BLOG TOUR (full list):
www.jesscscott.wordpress.com
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REVIEWS:
"Jaw-dropping bold, insightful, and informative."
-- Bernard Schaffer,
best-selling author of Superbia
"...very informative and something that every teen would be interested
to read (and should read) because the information in the book is really
useful and stuff that a lot of people would be too embarrassed to talk
about or ask in real life."
-- Marie C., 18 y/o, Singapore (via email)
"The questions were fab. They were questions that most teens ask
every day. [The questions] were really well answered and really relevant."
-- Natasha W., 17 y/o, United Kingdom (via email)
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VIDEO #1: Jess's trailer/video for Teen Guide
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EXCERPT (Question #15):
Should I undergo plastic surgery to look more attractive?
MATT:
I'd answer this question by making a distinction between plastic surgery
and reconstructive surgery. Reconstructive surgery is done to repair
damage or a deformity in the face. This is necessary for health and
confidence and should always be done if it is safe. In contrast, plastic
surgery is done to improve a person's appearance. It may or may not
do that. The most common forms of plastic surgery are a nose job, making
the nose smaller or more shapely, and a breast enlargement, inserting
objects into the breasts to make them larger.
I'm against these most of the time. I don't think you need a small nose
or big breasts to be loved or to be sexually attractive. Not everyone
is attracted to every look, but girls who think they have big noses
and small breasts can have completely satisfying romantic and sexual
lives because there are boys out there who will like how they look or
will like their personalities so much that the girl's appearance won't
be so important.
Plastic surgery for young people is about insecurity and wanting to
fit in. A girl may think that if she has bigger breasts, boys will like
her, or that if her nose were smaller, she would be more admired. She
may think she is ugly and that plastic surgery is necessary to make
her beautiful. However, a genuine smile or a laugh can make even a relatively
unappealing face attractive. I have met plenty of women over the years
whom I did not consider attractive but who had husbands and children.
Confidence, happiness, and sincerity are attractive. Being in good health
helps, too. Your physical look does matter, and some girls get overlooked
while others get a lot of attention, but eventually, this always sorts
itself out.
Boys, I can only tell you this: any girl who likes you, and who you
like, feels good when you touch her. There's a kind of thrill when people
who are attracted to each other touch. Her look doesn't indicate how
good the sexual experience is. Instead, it's how comfortable you feel
together and whether you like to do the same things.
JESS:
Plastic surgery is very acceptable to many people nowadays, and is placed
in the same category as make-up by some individuals (plastic/cosmetic
surgery = "beauty in the 21st century").
I think there are certain physical features that can be a source of
annoyance, in terms of looks/appearance (asymmetrical features, for
example). There are certain industries where looks play a premium too
(acting and modeling, most notably).
The trouble with plastic surgery is that there is a tendency for it
to be seen as a quick-fix solution, which lends an addictive kind of
appeal to the procedure as well. Bullied because of the bump on your
nose? No matter--one can get it shaven down by a trained plastic surgeon.
Fearful of developing wrinkles in future? No worries--one can begin
getting Botox treatments as a preventive measure during their late teens
or early twenties.
Plastic surgery is still a form of surgery, with a number of risks involved.
I think it's up to a person to decide if plastic surgery would make
them feel better about themselves, though I'd think about it a little
bit more and decide how much importance I place on beauty and physical
attractiveness.
The mainstream media tends to promote shallow values over real values
that could actually make a difference to society (kindness, acceptance,
social justice). Perhaps it's a natural tendency to pick at one's own
perceived imperfections (to the point of "body dysmorphic disorder"),
from constantly viewing standard images of culturally accepted forms
of beauty everywhere (models are physically perfect by being much taller
and much skinnier than average, for example).
Looks eventually fade though--aging is a part of life. One might spend
a lot of money and/or many hours a day (or week/month) on looks, but
those hours are not going to help a person become a better person.
I was socially awkward at times throughout my teenage years, though
plastic surgery was never something I seriously considered. I took the
time to learn more about the world and other cultures, and try out all
sorts of hobbies in my free time. I think a genuine smile goes further
than something plastic (unless that's the type of lifestyle you ultimately
aspire to be part of).
I've always thought that there's more to human life than external looks.
One has a mind and personality and heart to cultivate. I think these
things deserve as much, if more attention, than one's physical appearance.
Just because vain and shallow values are prevalent doesn't mean they're
good values for society. And you don't have to buy into any message
or brand or product, if you decide not to.
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